FEELING THE GUILT? HOW TO MAXIMIZE THE TIME YOU GET WITH YOUR LITTLES
Family life is sooo much different in 2018 than it was in the 1950's (and thank God for that!). Most families have two working parents, which comes with a lot of scheduling, time management, and yes you guessed it....GUILT! Why do we have this terrible Mom guilt? That's a whole other blog post, but for now I wanted to share some tried and true tips to help maximize the time you do get to spend with you kids.
This will help put more emphasis on the quality versus the quantity, and make the most impact on everyone involved!
1. TURN OFF YOUR PHONE
Ok so the first one is fairly obvious, yet really hard to actually do! If you're in the medical field or need to be on call, most cell phones can be put on silent and have a list of numbers that they will allow alerts to come through even on silent mode – such as a spouse or school or job. But if you can turn it all the way off, do it! Put it away in a drawer. My kids (and my husband, actually) get so excited by this little action step as they know that I won’t be distracted!
2. PLAN AHEAD
This can be the night before, or done a month in advance! This gives them something to look forward to. Total "Mom and me" time is now seen as a reward and almost a holiday! Make sure you let them know that you are going to have some special time together and you will be doing X Y and Z. Most kids prefer having some kind of plan, and this way you make sure it doens't slip through the cracks so feelings don't get hurt. Have more than one child? Give each one a special day/night on the calendar and you can even let them choose the activity for bonus "Awesome Mom" points!
3. GET DOWN ON THEIR LEVEL.
Yup - simple as that. Put some yoga pants on and get down on the floor. Yes, it may not be the most comfortable place in the world, but when you’re on their eye level it makes them feel extra connected and important.
4. PRACTICE CHILD-LEAD PLAY TIME
Let them guide the activity! Whether your kids are young or school aged, they spend most of their day being told what to do, how to do it, and how to behave. Letting them be in charge of you is such a wonderful twist! If you’re a super type A perfectionist, this part will be HARD but you can do it! The benefits out way the mess haha, I promise. It may be as simple as them making up new rules to a familiar board game, but it gives a whole new dimension and laughter factor to whatever it is you're doing.
5. IT'S OK TO SPOIL THEM.
You miss each other all day, so don't feel guilty about spoiling them a little. Not as in buying them things, (you can do that too if you want!) but rather spoil them with your time. Read one more story. Snuggle them in bed even though you have things to do. Help them pick out their jammies even if they're old enough to do it on their own. Have them help make dinner even though it will be messy. Invite them all into your bed for a special tv show/book. These little extras go a long way in helping them feel connected.
Let us know in the comments section if you have any other tips to add to the list, and we hope this helps you enjoy every second you get with your babes! They're only little for a little while, after all.